FAMILY: UNDER ATTACK
Few would argue that Satan has been attacking the family since the beginning of time, starting with Adam, Eve, Cain and Abel. The Enemy used jealousy to begin a work that ended in murder. God intervened by banishing Cain from his family. Eve had to say goodbye to both of her sons. There is no doubt she had suffered much pain. She buried Adam and had to give Cain over to God.
Many believers and non-believers today suffer from being emotionally and physically separated from their children. Several of you, through prayer requests, have shared how the Enemy is has put a wedge between you and your children. I have and am experiencing it also. How does God feel about it? Obviously, the absence of this natural love is Enemy-induced and a sign of the times:
2 Timothy 3:1-5 “But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. 2 People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3 without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, 4 treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— 5 having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.”
God thinks it’s “terrible.” He also tells us how to handle it: “Have nothing to do with such people.” It is difficult to do what this scripture says. God doesn’t exclude our children here.
My daughter is 33 years old. She has “ghosted” me four (4) times over the past 15 years. 1st time lasted 1 year, 2nd for 3.5 years, the third for 5 years; the fourth for going on 1 year so far, which means that we have been separated nearly 11 out of 15 years. Not only was our relationship severed each time, but I wasn't able to see my only grandchild during those times. I’ve only had access to my (now 13 year old) granddaughter 2.5 years, and they only lived 3.5 miles from me. The latest estrangement (number 5) began Christmas Eve 2017, after a short-lived, one-year reconciliation. Every time my daughter “allowed” contact, it was on her terms and never included an apology. I’m not sharing this for sympathy or to air my dirty laundry. I am sharing it so you know it’s not only happening to YOU! These Spiritual Battles are REAL. The Enemy will do anything he can to cause us pain—to drive wedges between us and our loved ones—to destroy our families. Remember he comes ONLY to kill, steal and destroy.
Each time I would beat myself up over and over and over. Warriors, it wasn’t my fault and if you’re in a similar situation, it’s not yours either. When communication is blocked and you are prevented from trying to repair the relationship, etc., it is not your fault. Neither is it Scriptural. I didn’t force my daughter to sever communication. She made that choice.
Two to three years into the 5 year separation, I couldn’t take the pain and suffering any longer. I was more of an emotional mess than I realized at the time. It was at that point in time that I gave the situation AND MY DAUGHTER over to the Lord. My hands were tied—there was nothing I could do. You know, it’s when our hands are tied and there isn’t anything else we can do, when we look to God. He is ALWAYS the answer and it's always best to go there RIGHT AWAY. :-) We think we are strong, when we are weak. When we ARE weak, GOD IS STRONG. When we try to handle a situation on our own, we fail. Oh sure, I prayed for my daughter and our relationship every day, but praying didn’t stop my pain and suffering. One reason is that I allowed myself to replay it and ponder it EVERY DAY. Fellow Warriors, we cannot MOVE FORWARD when we are living in the past!!!! Praying didn’t stop the suffering. I still hurt. I still yearned to talk to her, to see her, and to be part of my only grandchild’s life. “I” couldn’t do it.
It was only when I COMPLETELY gave it over to God when I was released from the suffering. God finally brought it to my attention how that He couldn't work until I stopped taking out the pain and "playing with it" over and over and over. I had to do my part. If I kept telling the “story” and re-living the pain, I would be right in the middle of the pain all over again. I had to LEAVE IT. When I did, I was finally at peace. I knew the situation, my daughter and granddaughter were in God’s hands. Amen. I gave the situation over to the only One who is able to turn it around. Just like Eve did with Cain, I had to say goodbye and give my child over to God.
After that brief one-year reconciliation, here I am once again in that "old familiar place" separated from my daughter and granddaughter. The difference this time is that I’ve learned not to worry about it . . . not to internalize it . . . not to pick up the pain and play with it day after day . . . not to allow the Enemy to cause me pain or to distract me from God’s will. However God sees fit to handle it, it’s in His hands; and what better hands to leave anyone in? I have put my COMPLETE TRUST IN GOD—not on what I could do or not do, or how much pain I felt, or anything else. My trust had to be in HIM.
1 Peter 4:11-14 KJV “If any man speak, let him speak as the oracles of God; if any man minister, let him do it as of the ability which God giveth: that God in all things may be glorified through Jesus Christ, to whom be praise and dominion for ever and ever. Amen. 12 Beloved, think it not strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened unto you: 13 But rejoice, inasmuch as ye are partakers of Christ's sufferings; that, when his glory shall be revealed, ye may be glad also with exceeding joy. 14 If ye be reproached for the name of Christ, happy are ye; for the spirit of glory and of God resteth upon you: on their part he is evil spoken of, but on your part he is glorified.”
From my own experience and what God has taught me through it all, TURN IT OVER TO GOD. Jesus died and took all sin upon Himself on the Cross. Plead Jesus’ Blood and give Him your pain. Give Him your suffering. Give Him “full custody” of your child(ren) or grandchild(ren). They are His anyway. Trust Him to deal with them. He knows even better than you do what it will take to bring them back.
Isaiah 40:28-31 KJV “Hast thou not known? hast thou not heard, that the everlasting God, the Lord, the Creator of the ends of the earth, fainteth not, neither is weary? there is no searching of his understanding.29 He giveth power to the faint; and to them that have no might he increaseth strength. 30 Even the youths shall faint and be weary, and the young men shall utterly fall: 31 But they that wait upon the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings as eagles; they shall run, and not be weary; and they shall walk, and not faint."
In addition {and you can read more about this under the "DELIVERANCE" tab}, soul ties are created with friends, family and anyone we have had sexual intimacy with. When there is an unholy soul tie, we must BREAK IT. I have also done this with my daughter.
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Warriors, we are living in the last days. There is a “natural” love between a child and mother/father. It just IS. However, the Enemy has been working for centuries, overtime, to break the “tie that binds.” What used to be “the norm” in families is now the “exception.” Thus, today mothers and fathers suffer great pain and anguish over their children. It’s not just that their children are “lost” in sin, but they choose to sever all ties with their parents and that “natural” love, on their part, is nowhere to be found.
If you haven’t experienced this kind of pain, do some work right now to prevent it! Satan’s attack on the family is a hate-filled attack on everything God stands for!
Ezekiel 28:15-16 describes Satan, the devil: “Thou wast perfect in thy ways from the day that thou wast created, till iniquity was found in thee. By the multitude of thy merchandise they have filled the midst of thee with violence.” “Iniquity” here means lawlessness. Satan is "without" law. He hates the law of God and has convinced most people to rebel against it. Revelation 12:12 tells us that Satan only has “a short time” remaining to do his destructive work. Ezekiel 28:19 says that God is going to deal with him decisively: “… thou shalt be a terror, and never shalt thou be any more.” God will put a stop to him.
Recognize the propaganda Satan is peddling today in your own life, through your relationships: friends, family, and even spouses. Understand how dangerous and deadly it is, and how it is crippling our nation! Reject the Enemy's lies about the family. Put the highest value on truth—and follow the evidence where it leads you. If you truly believe the truth, it will set you free (John 8:32). It will free you from Satan’s lies and deceit -- it will lead you right to God. His Word is truth! (John 17:17). God created family. We must value God’s guidance! He can make your marriage happy and teach you how to turn your heart to your children and their hearts to you (Malachi 4:6). Before this happens to you, structure your family according to God’s Word:
Joshua 1:7-9 KJV “Only be thou strong and very courageous, that thou mayest observe to do according to all the law, which Moses my servant commanded thee: turn not from it to the right hand or to the left, that thou mayest prosper withersoever thou goest. 8 This book of the law shall not depart out of thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success. 9 Have not I commanded thee? Be strong and of a good courage; be not afraid, neither be thou dismayed: for the Lord thy God is with thee whithersoever thou goest.”
Deuteronomy 11:19-23 KJV “And ye shall teach them your children, speaking of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.20 And thou shalt write them upon the door posts of thine house, and upon thy gates:21 That your days may be multiplied, and the days of your children, in the land which the Lord sware unto your fathers to give them, as the days of heaven upon the earth.22 For if ye shall diligently keep all these commandments which I command you, to do them, to love the Lord your God, to walk in all his ways, and to cleave unto him;23 Then will the Lord drive out all these nations from before you, and ye shall possess greater nations and mightier than yourselves.”
Proverbs 22:6 KJV “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”
Standing on the Truth of God’s Word,
Delann Conrad
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